"Boys will be boys", said one of the two ladies standing at the Chiranjeev Vihar Bus Stop in a rasping voice. She was a rotund brunette with a towering height. Her hair was neatly tied in a bun and her overall look seemed to be of an office working woman. She was married as it could be easily identified by looking at the long streak of "red sindoor" that embraced the area above her temple. Also, she must be in the thirties or forties as was evident from the vertical wrinkles on her face not very nicely concealed by her makeup. The other one too resembled her except for the fact that she was petite with black cropped hair.
The bus for Vaishali Metro Station was going to be an hour late accruing to the dense fog that had encumbered the entire Delhi-NCR Region. Thus, what all I could do was to wait just like the other daily commuters. While waiting, I happened to hear a few excerpts from the conversation between the two ladies.
The entire conversation above mattered to me not just because I had never heard of a similar incident earlier but also because of something that I usually hear,i.e., the common saying,
"BOYS WILL BE BOYS."
The aforementioned saying is a universal fact but with a little bit change. I say,
"HUMANS WILL BE HUMANS."
Haha! Of course, they won't be rabbits.
Apart from the poor joke above, a major point to note is that our society tries to cover each and every sin under the garb of some stupid saying. For instance, if a boy passes cheap comments on a girl, people say,"It happens. What can we do? It will remain the same."
And for that matter even if a girl says something ill, people say,"Girls these days have become bitter. It's in fashion. What can we do?"
Before I continue further, I just wanna say that I am not a staunch feminist or male supporter. Rather, I am an egalitarian. The question I am putting up here is only about the ability to sift right from wrong and take a suitable action. Though, it cannot be ignored that in India, this unbiased favour is given more to the males than the females. Peradventure, we can say that there is a three to two ratio for males to females in this regard.
Maybe this is the reason why crime committing rate of males is much more than the females. Maybe that's why we had witnessed an escalation of robbery, dowry and rape cases to name a few in the recent past.
We have often heard,"What we sow, so shall we reap." However, we never fail to have a tendency of forgetting it. Therefore, to put forth my viewpoint, I have written a few verses as follows:
The bus for Vaishali Metro Station was going to be an hour late accruing to the dense fog that had encumbered the entire Delhi-NCR Region. Thus, what all I could do was to wait just like the other daily commuters. While waiting, I happened to hear a few excerpts from the conversation between the two ladies.
Petite- Got a complaint from Ravi's school yesterday.
Brunette- That's not something new for you.
Petite- This time it's something serious Tanya. He could have murdered someone.
Brunette- Oh! Come on Rupa. He was just driving a car. He is in 11th and boys tend to do silly mistakes at his age.
Petite- He ran into the old school watchman who is right now injured. Don't you know the consequence if...
Brunette- LOOK.Ravi's driving could've killed the watchman but it didn't. There are varied possibilities of things that could've happened. It doesn't mean that we have to worry about such things. And no matter what may happen, boys will be boys. You just can't restrict them.
The entire conversation above mattered to me not just because I had never heard of a similar incident earlier but also because of something that I usually hear,i.e., the common saying,
"BOYS WILL BE BOYS."
The aforementioned saying is a universal fact but with a little bit change. I say,
"HUMANS WILL BE HUMANS."
Haha! Of course, they won't be rabbits.
Apart from the poor joke above, a major point to note is that our society tries to cover each and every sin under the garb of some stupid saying. For instance, if a boy passes cheap comments on a girl, people say,"It happens. What can we do? It will remain the same."
And for that matter even if a girl says something ill, people say,"Girls these days have become bitter. It's in fashion. What can we do?"
Before I continue further, I just wanna say that I am not a staunch feminist or male supporter. Rather, I am an egalitarian. The question I am putting up here is only about the ability to sift right from wrong and take a suitable action. Though, it cannot be ignored that in India, this unbiased favour is given more to the males than the females. Peradventure, we can say that there is a three to two ratio for males to females in this regard.
Maybe this is the reason why crime committing rate of males is much more than the females. Maybe that's why we had witnessed an escalation of robbery, dowry and rape cases to name a few in the recent past.
We have often heard,"What we sow, so shall we reap." However, we never fail to have a tendency of forgetting it. Therefore, to put forth my viewpoint, I have written a few verses as follows:
A newborn child is the purest soul.
Then what makes the devil crawl
into his small heart and mind?
How is the canny plot designed
to make him behave like a goon?
Why he is not immune
to all the satanic charms?
Oh! It's his mother's arms
that screen her child like an armour.
There is no doubt, for a mother her child is a charmer.
Being intoxicated by her blind love for the child,
she becomes too meek and mild
to forgive all his errors.
Oh! She never knows they will become terrors
if left ignored and unhandled.
Ultimately, all lives will be dismantled.
When she will scold,
that child who is now a man so bold,
it would be too late to realise.
Now her voice will be just another noise.
And all left will be a mere stupid saying,
"BOYS WILL BE BOYS."
---------------------------------------------------------------©Radhika Gupta(June8,2018)
Correctly expressed ma'am. I have heard mothers telling their kids, "Don't cry like a girl."... Evrn we were told that it is not befitting of a boy to be beaten up and to not fight back. As child psychologists opine, we should never underestimate the deducing capacity of children. When such sayings are harped upon over and over especially by those whose statement a child considers to be an a priori truth like his mother, his innocent mind deduces that a girl can cry and it is usual for a girl to be beaten and for her to cry meekly without fighting back. This gives rise to male chauvinism. Someone correctly said that mothers, instead of teaching their children, "Boys don't cry" should tell them that "Boys don't make anyone cry"...:)
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